If you do not have lupus, please read this carefully: Keep your unwanted lupus opinions to yourself! Unless we specifically asked for them, we don’t want to hear them!
Anyone who has lupus, has heard the countless opinions of others about their illness.
“You don’t look sick.”
“I know someone with lupus and they are doing great and living a full life.”
“Just have a positive attitude, it’ll all work out.”
And the unwanted, ridiculously uneducated opinions and “words of wisdom” go on and on and on and fucking on….
It seriously pisses me off.
I feel like telling them off, or replying with some snarky come back. Instead, I just smile and nod. If they post an unsolicited opinion on my page, I usually just ignore it or delete it.
Why though?? Why do we do that?
What We Should Say, Is The Truth:
Keep Your Unwanted Lupus Opinions to Yourself!
I decided to use my blog to vent, and share some responses that I really want to say out loud to some of these people. Don’t misunderstand, I am sure they are mostly well intentioned, however, if someone does not ask for your opinion, you shouldn’t give it! Most of the time, we are sharing what we are going through, because we are lonely and just want to be heard. It doesn’t mean that we want to hear all the unwanted lupus opinions of the masses!
Responses for Unwanted Lupus Opinions:
Them: You don’t look sick?
Us: Well, I am! I just hide it well because I feel guilty all the damn time, since all my body really wants to do is is take me the fuck out! But thanks for the compliment. (smile)
Them: I have a friend with lupus, and she’s doing great. She has a happy and full life.
Us: Well, good for her. Not sure what I am supposed to do with that statement. I am NOT doing great. My life basically sucks! But, great for your friend! (mentally flicks this person off)
Them: I read that if you eat healthy, or eat this food or that food, you can cure yourself.
Us: Um, yeah, that’s a fucking lie! I have done every diet, food trick, pill, and natural remedy that you can think of, and my body is still trying to kill me. Thanks tho. (smile)
Them: Maybe you should get a second opinion?
Us: Are you kidding me?? Why don’t you get a clue? Don’t you think I have already exhausted every avenue to rid myself of this insidious disease??? (smh)
Them: Just keep a positive attitude. Meditate. Pray. It’ll all work out.
Us: Fuck you. (smiles)
I am sorry if some of these responses seem harsh. I really am. However, it’s super annoying to CONTINUALLY hear UNWANTED advice and opinions that I NEVER asked for. Just shut the fuck up and give your friend a hug. THAT is what they need–NOT your unasked for, unwanted lupus opinions!
Do you have a great, unwanted lupus opinion response? Please share it below!